The following is a quote I've borrowed from a book I'm reading: ADULT CHILDREN - The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families.
At the beginning of Part III. It is titled 'What Happens To Me?'
'Some say we are different people at different periods of our lives, changing not through effect of will, which is a brave affair, but in the easy coarse of nature every ten years or so...I think one remains the same person throughout, merely passing as it were in these lapses of time from one room to another, but all in th same house. If we unlock the rooms of the far past we can peer in an see ourselves, busily occupied in beginning to become you and me.' by J.M. Barrie, from the Dedication to his first edition if Peter Pan.
In sharing this, I take seriously what my friends and I have shared with each other in the past few months. We often shake our heads as we perceive everything differently now, It may be that many times we have lost trust with some people, or we have realized we have survived even though we have lost, and we have loved, and we may be coming to the understanding that we must accept a lifestyle that we never imagined when we were younger. I am speaking from a grandmother, and great-grandmother's point of view.
Yes, life changes us. Most of my friends are survivors of divorce, or the death of a loved one, and the many changes in our health as we age. But we don't fold, and if we do, it doesn't last very long because we will eventually get up one morning and continue to put one foot in front of the other as we go forward. When life has not turned out the way we planned, we find ourselves going with the flow as we prepare to change our own plans as quickly as a thunderstorm may suddenly appear.
We have chosen the closest friends, the ones we can share the hurt, and the pain with and that gives us the freedom to feel free knowing there will be no judgement. We may cry, scream, and question, 'why', as their friendship allows us to hold our heads up in public knowing that no will have a clue about what is going on inside our lives. We also realize no one can make our decisions for us because if we fail, our friends will be there to uphold us up with love. We still make mistakes, and most of all we still have open minds to learn and to continue to grow.