Finding my friend in an unexpected situation at a nursing home where her sister-in-law resides, has become quite a learning experience. And because it could happen to you, I decided to share it. Because my friend was involved in helping another patient, other than her family rub a cramp out of her foot she went through one of, what she describes, as one of the worse experiences of her life.
She had the best of intentions. She had been helping this lady for months as she had learned after her grandfather was given some relief after having several strokes that by massaging and pulling the toes back towards the body. It often gives a patient relief from pain.
The room was quiet and then the lady screamed out in pain about her left foot was under her right let, my friend immediately went into action and tried to help. As she moved the foot, the blanket fell off (in a period of about 15 seconds) and my friend immediately put it back and as she did she noticed the lady's bottom was very red. This could be compared to a situation where you witness an elderly person falling on a sidewalk and you rush to her side to offer assistance and accidentally her dress is pulled up too far.
This is not the way a family member construed my friend as thinking she was helping but took it that her sister-in-law's rights had been violated and that my friend was doing an inspection. And a formal complaint was filled out against my friend. This was perhaps the most naive, uninformed decision that could have happened to my friend. Her only thought was if it was her family member she would want to know what happened.
After taking care of her grandfather after he suffered strokes, many of her friends learned that she could be trusted to take care of their family members. So from 1996 until just a few years ago, she worked as a private sitter for dozens of patients. During this time, she only received praises.
So this situation where she had the good intention of helping someone in pain became blown up and taken out of context and the fact that there was no intent for my friend to harm the patient is most important. There was a big misunderstanding and there was a call made to her, saying she was banned from the nursing home until she had a meeting with the top authorities.
The first words spoken at the meeting were very shocking to her as the complaint was read, yes - my friend admitted to everything that has been shared above. She was told that a patient's rights had been violated and this was a felony and that's when my friend said she felt her mind, heart, and body went into a type of shock. And because she was scared that she had committed a felony she began to cry and tell the three authorities that she would never hurt anyone. She was being accused of intentionally looking at the lady's body, she was being accused of trying to diagnose the redness. And this was for one reason only. She had seen yeast many times with daycare children and elderly patients. She had only told her family that if it was her family member that she would want to know, but it was up to them to report it. She even stated that she would call a dermatologist if it was her family member to try to see if she could be helped. There is also a yeast cream sold in retail store that can be used to find out if it is indeed a yeast infection. It’s simple. If it works, it is. If it doesn’t work, then a doctor’s care is needed.
Then the man who was in attendance spoke up and said to my friend, "You could be in jail right now, behind bars!"
My friend replied, "I am not a child. So don't treat like I am one. I understand exactly what is going on here!"
These words were more than a shocking revelation as she cried, she began to feel numbness, and stress that she could not comprehend that a few seconds of what she thought was based on good intentions had turned into an interrogation she could barely withstand.. She admitted she was remorseful as she cried like a baby and believed they were basing their interview on facts. She was horrified and terrified being also told they could stop her from going to the nursing home to see her own family member.
She learned later after talking to an attorney that a warrant could not have been sworn for her arrest as she had not intended harm to the lady. That she was not aware of all the rules there, and that she could not have been 'behind bars'.
So this real-life story ends with my friend's understanding that when a person is in an interview in a situation such as this that some type of calmness should be involved by at least one of the authorized persons, and that no person, like my friend, should ever have to endure an interrogation that seemed equally as serious as a true crime TV show that was on recently.
This article is being shared so that whoever reads this will know before they get involved with someone and have the best of intentions. The best of intentions don't always turn out the way you intended.